Alone at Christmas

I’ve spent time alone at Christmas. Many years ago, I remember one Christmas in particular. I was lonely, depressed, and extremely low on funds. As I gazed at my pitiful Christmas tree with a paper plate star on top, a scant yarn of popcorn, and a sparse scatter of tinsel with no presents underneath it, I realized I was too depressed to so much as shed a tear. I never want to experience that feeling again.

 

I’ll always be mindful that many people suffer through the holidays. I wish I could bring a smile to their faces, but I know I would come up woefully short trying. Back then, I couldn’t find solace. But soon I remembered God’s grace. So, I am thankful. I count my blessings and pray for peace on earth. And I pray for lonely people to experience God’s grace, too.

 

Come to Me, all of you who work and have heavy loads. I will give you rest. Follow My teachings and learn from Me. I am gentle and do not have pride. You will have rest for your souls. For My way of carrying a load is easy and My load is not heavy. Matthew 11:28-30

 

Being alone during significant moments can be a time of spiritual growth and reflection. I want to share examples of Bible figures who experienced solitude during the time of Christ’s birth, whose isolation brought about unique benefits.

 

• Mary and Joseph:

Mary and Joseph were alone in a stable in Bethlehem when Jesus was born. They were far away from their families and didn’t have the support system they might have expected during such a significant event. However, their solitude allowed them to focus on the miracle of Jesus’ birth and their roles as his earthly parents. They had the opportunity to contemplate the angelic messages they had received and to fully surrender themselves to God’s plan.

 

• The Shepherds:

The shepherds were in the fields, tending their flocks, when the angel appeared to announce Jesus’ birth. They were likely living solitary lives, spending long hours in isolation. But when the heavenly host appeared, they were given a unique privilege. They were the first to hear the good news and witness the glory of God’s presence. Their solitude allowed them to be receptive to the angel’s message and to experience the joy of encountering the newborn Savior.

 

• Simeon:

Simeon was an elderly man who had been waiting for the consolation of Israel. He had spent years in solitude, seeking God’s promises and hoping for the Messiah’s arrival. When Mary and Joseph brought Jesus to the temple, Simeon was there, and the Holy Spirit revealed to him that he would not die before seeing the Messiah. Simeon’s years of waiting alone prepared him to recognize and embrace Jesus as the fulfillment of God’s promise.

 

• Anna:

Anna was a prophetess and a widow who spent her days in the temple, worshiping and fasting. She was well-advanced in age and had been alone for many years. However, her solitude enabled her to develop a deep spiritual sensitivity and devotion to God. When Mary and Joseph brought Jesus to the temple, Anna recognized him as the Redeemer and began to proclaim the good news to all who were waiting for the redemption of Jerusalem.

 

These examples highlight that although being alone during Christmas can be challenging, it can also provide a unique opportunity for encountering the presence of God. It is a time to draw near to him, seek His guidance, and find comfort and solace in His promises. Remember, he sent his son, Jesus, for the destitute and broken hearted.

 

Here are some suggestions to help you uplift your spirit and make the most of the holiday.

 

• Embrace self-care:

Use this time to pamper yourself. Take long baths, read books, or watch your favorite movies. Engage in any activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

 

• Volunteer:

Find opportunities to give back to your community during the holiday season. Consider volunteering at a local shelter, food bank, or charity organization. Helping others can bring a sense of fulfillment and purpose, and you may meet like-minded individuals along the way.

 

• Connect with loved ones:

Even if you can’t physically be with your loved ones, make an effort to connect with them virtually. Schedule video calls, send heartfelt messages, or even organize a virtual gathering where everyone can participate in holiday activities together. Sharing stories, laughter, and well wishes can help you feel connected.

 

• Create new traditions:

Start new traditions that are meaningful to you. For example, decorate your living space, cook your favorite holiday meal, or bake cookies. Use this time to explore new hobbies.

 

• Explore your community:

Check out local events, concerts, or holiday church activities in your area. You might discover festive activities or attractions that can help you get into the holiday spirit. Take a walk in your neighborhood to enjoy the decorations and lights.

 

• Engage in creative activities:

Try your hand at painting, drawing, writing, or crafting. You can create holiday-themed artwork, write a gratitude journal, or make personalized gifts for your loved ones.

 

• Focus on gratitude:

Take time to reflect on the things you are grateful for. Write down a list of things you appreciate and focus on the positive aspects.

 

• Take a day trip or vacation:

Plan a day trip or a small vacation during the holiday season if possible. Explore a new city or visit a scenic location. Most certainly, a change of scenery can help uplift your spirits.

 

If you are alone at Christmas and reading this, know that I prayed especially for you to be here so I could tell you that I understand your loneliness. I pray that you will experience God’s grace and embrace this time as an opportunity for him to show you his love. If you need further assistance, please call Melissa Kirk, The Grace Warrior.

 

The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning. I say to myself, “The Lord is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!

Lamentations 3:22-24